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Still trying to balance life? Here’s what to do instead.

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Just like these stairs are pieces that get us somewhere, the things we do in life get us where we want to go. Figuring out how each piece fits into place helps us create ease, grace and flow {and who doesn't want that?!?!}.

Each stair works harmoniously with the next to get us to our destination, right? That's how each area of our life, and each of our 4 bodies {more on that in a minute}, work too. They say it's the journey not the destination, so during the journey we need to make everything work in harmony.

There’s a totally different energy to harmony too. There’s a sense that the effort we're putting in to what we're doing will lead us to great rewards, and the greatest reward is a beautiful dance where everyone and everything is coordinated and aligned.  That sounds a hell of lot more fun than “balance” to me.

But how do we get there?

I’ve got 5 tips for you that will help you step off the fulcrum and start dancing your way to a fun and Fiercely Fresh Life.

Tip #1: Be grateful for the things in your life.

We’ve all heard about how an attitude of gratitude can change your life. It’s true. Sometimes though, it’s hard to be grateful for a full plate. My suggestion is to reframe how you look at that plate. There may be a lot there, and you GET to create and participate in life rather than HAVE to get shit done. Wayne Dyer said it best, “If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” Boom! New lenses help us see more clearly.

Tip #2: Try on different routines

We all have routines for the things we do. Routines help us have some structure to our lives so we don’t have our heads in the clouds all the time. If a routine starts to get a little too mundane for you, switch things up a bit. I tried so hard to get up in the morning and get my workout done, then meditate, then get ready, then get the boys up, then…then…then…

I realized that I need to wake the hell up before doing much of anything so I’ve started getting up and moving around the house a bit {quietly of course, shhhhh, don’t wake the kids yet!!!!}. By allowing myself at least half an hour to actually wake up before jumping into my routine, I’ve been more motivated to keep that routine going. Boom! It’s all about flexibility.

Tip #3: Prioritize

Ahhhhh…the to-do list. You know the one that never seems to get shorter, only longer. We all have these too. There are only so many hours in the day so we need to figure out a way to get the important shit done {I fed the kids yesterday, do I really have to do it again today?}

Sit down with your list on a regular basis and connect with it. Take a look at the tasks that are on it and figure out what needs to be done now, what can wait until later, and what can you ask for help with {OMG!!! Did she just say ask for help?!?! Yes, yes I did. But that’s for another day and another blog post}. Make columns down the page and put each task into the appropriate column. Boom! Taking back your power.

Tip #4: Boundaries

Oh boy! Do you even know what boundaries are? I’ve posted about them on my FB page. You should check it out.

According to Websters Dictionary a boundary is something that indicates or fixes a limit or extent. There are other definitions that come about from the psychology arena, but this one, for me, is the simplest and easiest to understand. It’s pretty self-explanatory.

The thing is we have to set boundaries with ourselves as much as we do with others. I have set a general goal for myself to be more productive. In order to do that I had to set the boundary with myself that I would only play games on my phone for 30 minutes a day. I still found myself stepping over my own boundary and getting distracted, so I set an even clearer boundary and took all game apps off my phone.

When we set boundaries we’re acknowledging what’s ok with us and what’s not. If we allow those boundaries to be stepped over, we end up full of resentment, or worse yet, beating ourselves up. The thing is, we need to take a look at how we allowed the boundary to be stepped over in the first place. Were we trying to people please again? {Not that I ever did anything like that.} Were we distracting ourselves from something deeper?

Get clear on your boundaries, for yourself and others, and have the courage to enforce them. That courage is already within you, so go find it {If you need help, let me know. It's what I do.}

Tip #5: Be mindful of all four of your bodies

Did you know you have three bodies other than your physical body? You have your spiritual body, your mental body, and your emotional body. All four bodies are connected, deeply. Starting with your spiritual body, any dis-ease runs down hill, meaning that when your physical body starts to shows disease, the ailment has been around for a while, it’s just now getting down to the bottom of the totem pole.

That’s how I was diagnosed with breast cancer. My spiritual, mental, and emotional bodies were so broken and battered. My poor physical body couldn’t keep everything afloat anymore. The lump I found was directly over my heart, the thing I was most disconnected from. My mental and emotional states were full of depression and anxiety. It’s because I didn’t have a belief system, other than gloom and doom.

I fought the cancer physically of course, and I also found ways to fight it with spiritual, mental, and emotional healing. I’m six and a half years cancer free and it’s because I treated the whole me.

When making decisions, tackling your to-do list, spending time with those you love, pretty much anything you do, be mindful of how it’s effecting your spiritual body, your mental body, your emotional body, and your physical body.

There you have it. Easy and effortless ways to get off the teeter totter and start dancing your way to harmony and YOUR Fiercely Fresh Life.

Need help putting these tips into practice?

Contact me today for your free Clarity Call.

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6 Comments

  1. Susan Free on April 20, 2018 at 11:57 am

    Beautifully written article, Michele! It was wonderfully informative and timely! Definitely reminders for working toward a more balanced life, and I see areas I chronically neglect. Thanks so much! With love, Susan

    • Michele Madrigal on April 24, 2018 at 5:31 pm

      Keeping the areas of life to 6 is helpful. Keeping in mind the connection between Spiritual, Mental, Emotional and Physical even more so. Everything is connected and when we keep everything working together life is amazing!

  2. Christina on April 23, 2018 at 4:10 pm

    Great article. We all want harmony in our life. But it only works if we strive for it. Grateful for what life has given us, keeping our spirit, body, and mind in balance, setting boundaries, and last but not least having fun too. I am not surprised you have such wisdom. As a cancer survivor, you know a whole lot about all these things. Glad you are still here and able to teach, tell, and share.

    • Michele Madrigal on April 24, 2018 at 5:30 pm

      We definitely have to put the work in to get where we want. Things don’t just happen. Thank you for your kind words

  3. Lee on April 25, 2018 at 2:12 pm

    This is soo true! I lived a life mostly drama free, but it wasn’t as fulfilling as I liked to be. If anything I wanted to do required a whole lot of effort, I just didn’t stick to it or not bother to do it at all. It wasn’t til I started putting in that effort that I was able to gain more out of life. Now, I’m feel like I’m really busy all the time, but I’m happier with my life through trying new things and seeing how the effort is shaping into the completion of my goals. Thank you for sharing!!

    • Michele Madrigal on April 29, 2018 at 12:44 pm

      Please forgive me for the delayed response. It actually shows the reality of what you’ve shared. I’ve been putting in lots of effort in building an audience and a business that I am more busy than I ever have been, which is a great thing. I’m seeing results and I’m able to use those results to gauge where I need to place more attention or make adjustments. Even if I don’t attain a goal I’ve set, the results of the process give me the lessons I need to move me forward. Keep putting in the effort, it will eventually pay off

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