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Just f@#$ing S.T.O.M.P!

Stomp

We get so busy in life that things start to get a little messy like a blustery winter storm. This NEEDS to get done. That NEEDS to happen. Before we know it the storm comes in and blows us over. It doesn't have to be that way.

I had my gallbladder removed last year and I've discovered a few things from that experience, and learned some things since then too.

I discovered that the gallbladder is where anger and resentment live. Hmmm…I’ve had gallbladder problems since I was in high school, about the same amount of time I’ve had anger issues. Things were starting to make sense and I was ready to move forward…or so I thought.

See, I have people pleasing tendencies and I usually forget to take care of myself or put myself on the back burner. Then, I unconsciously harbor resentment because I know I need to care for myself properly. But I want to help them, make them happy too. I keep trying to justify things by using one of my core values of being flexible. It’s a vicious cycle. And it keeps repeating…over and over.

Well, it’s time to stop and take my own advice. It's also time to S.T.O.M.P. out some of the issues that gave me gall stones in the first place-negative emotions.

When you can slow down enough to figure out where your intentions and “needs” come from you’ll discover how to get closer to what it is you actually want. When you slow down and pay attention to your emotions in the moment, you can actually learn a thing or two from them. When you learn what your emotions are telling you, you become emotionally intelligent and build a solid foundation for what you want no storm can touch you.

I have a handy little acronym to help you remember what to do. It's based on an exercise I learned from the trainings I've had regarding the unconscious mind, and I put my little twist on it because well, that's what I do. Based on the S.T.O.P method, here's my version called the S.T.O.M.P method.

  1. First you literally stop what you’re doing. I don’t care if you’re in the car with screaming children or if you’re in the comfort of your own home trolling for answers on the internet about how to change your life. If you feel anxiety, anger, frustration, any negative emotion, freeze, just like you did when you were a kid playing freeze tag. Don’t move a muscle!
  2. Then take a nice long deep breath. You may need to take more than one. If I’m dealing with my kids it’s usually at least 10. Focus on the air going through your nose, down your throat, and into your chest and lungs. Expand your chest using just your breath. Let that breath leave your body and take the tension and negative emotions with it.
  3. Observe what’s going on. Are the kids just being kids, playful and silly? Or are you making up some stupid story about how they are deliberately pushing your buttons so you lose your shit and they get a giggle out of it (yes, this stupid story is one I use often). Are you overwhelmed by the amount of information on the internet about how to make you life better and your butt look smaller? Your thoughts about what’s going on is causing the overwhelm and anxiety to surface. How does your body feel? Are you holding on for dear life?
  4. This is the step I added that has been a little extra powerful. Make a picture in your mind of how you would like to be instead. If your pissed off and about to lose your shit (not that I have ever been there-ahem!), would you rather be calm? Use your imagination and picture yourself calmly handling the situation in front of you. 
  5. Proceed consciously based on what you’re seeing and feeling. Can you see how your thoughts have created the negative emotion? Do you need to take some more deep breaths or do you need to go beat the shit out of your pillows (yes, this is a practice I participate in because sometimes the thoughts in my head are not so nice). If you need to take a plastic bat to the pillows on your bed because you need to transmute the negative energy flowing through your body, go do it. Pillows can be restuffed. Do you need to walk away from the computer for a little while so you can clear you mind? Whatever you have to do to release the negative energy so that you can take action and allow the flow of life to break open again, do it! And do it consciously.

When we stop and look around we’ll usually start to see that the storm isn’t all that bad, and there might even be a bit of sunshine peeking through the clouds. If we can shift the negative state we’re in by simply taking a couple of small actions we can shift our being and our doing so that we can have what we want. We learn how to respond rather than react. When we respond the clouds start to dissipate, along with the negative energy, and the sun shines again. Hell, we may even start to stomp through the puddles, having a little bit of fun too. 

So, I’m going to do my best to remember to fucking S.T.O.M.P. those negative emotions. Then I’m going to enjoy my life again because I’ve created a pretty awesome life.

Ready to S.T.O.M.P. those negative emotions?

Or do you need a little help building this new habit? Connect with me and we'll make it happen.

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8 Comments

  1. Christina on March 19, 2018 at 12:18 pm

    You have a very fun writing style that kept me reading not just because of the topic but because of the writing too. I absolutely agree that negative emotions and feelings affect our body and health. Stepping back when we are flooded with negative feelings, taking a deep breath, look at what is really happening … all great advise.

    • Michele Madrigal on March 19, 2018 at 4:11 pm

      Thank you Christina! The mind body connection is very real. We have four bodies-Spiritual, Mental, Emotional, and Physical. Imbalance in any of the first three eventually shows up in the physical. I like to compare them to legs of a chair. As long as all four legs are strong, the chair is stable. If even one leg is wobbly, there’s gonna be trouble.

  2. Katherine on March 19, 2018 at 12:51 pm

    I very rarely ever get super angry, but when I do I usually feel like my head is going to explode. I’ll have to try this along with the baseball bat to my pillows! You’re letting out your anger, AND fluffing them up at the same time!

  3. Jillian Elizabeth on March 19, 2018 at 2:48 pm

    This is so true, sometimes I can just get so overwhelmed and wrapped up in my work and everything going on that it leads to stress. Totally have to STOMP

    • Michele Madrigal on March 19, 2018 at 4:14 pm

      It’s easy to do in our crazy busy world. There’s always something to do! The more we can slow down and bring awareness to what’s going on on the deepest level, the less the overwhelm will take over.

  4. Tameka on March 25, 2018 at 12:53 am

    Love the content. Much needed advice, with all the hustle and bustling that goes on with everyday life

    • Michele Madrigal on March 26, 2018 at 2:23 pm

      Slowing down can be challenging. When we actually take the time to do it, and do it mindfully, we’re able to open up some freedom for us to ease into the hustle and actually enjoy it a little. I did that just this morning. I had multiple things going on and commitments I’d made, all of which were important to me. So I STOMPed my way through the overwhelm and anxiety that were coming up, and I actually started laughing. Plus, I got everything done on time!

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