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Even after a fabulous Mothers Day, I still feel like a total failure {I thought I was supposed to get a day off or something}.

Why? Because I’m not doing a good enough job {According to who?!?!}

When you’re a mom, single or married, you don’t get a day off, no matter what anyone says. Food still needs to be cooked, dishes still need to be done, laundry still needs to get washed {ran out of underwear…again}, and kids still fight over stupid shit. There’s always something to do, or something that needs to be redone because it wasn’t done right the first time. Perfection can be a real bitch!

So, if all the usual still happens, why do we have this expectation that the world stops when we have a day set aside for us?

Because we still think the outside world is needed to tell us that we do is enough and that we are enough.

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The thing is…WE’RE ALREADY ENOUGH!

We bust our asses to give our families the best possible lives. We bend over backwards to give them what we, or they, think they need, even to our detriment. Maybe we’re looking for their approval, their love. Maybe we’re just looking for a little acknowledgment. Either way, we just want everyone, including ourselves, to be happy. Happiness, though, is something one can only find within themselves.

Kids are the perfect example of finding happiness inside. My kids may get pissed at me for not letting them buy the latest video game, or the newest this, the coolest that. Yet it never fails, ten minutes later they’re all up in my grill giving me hugs and kisses and telling me they love me. I’m sure as they get older this may change, and it’s my responsibility as their parent to guide them in such a way that they don’t turn into the assholes that think they can have whatever they want whenever they want it. Even when they get disappointed, they’re still able to find their happy.

And so can we!

Part of being a mom and guiding them through life is knowing that I am going to fail sometimes.

I saw in one of my boys classroom a cute little sign that said FAIL-First Attempt In Learning. That struck me as pretty damn awesome. My immediate thought was it’s totally ok to fail. When I do, I just get back up and keep going. My kids taught me that, among other things.

When I shared this with one of my mom friends she said “even if you need a second attempt, it’s still ok because then you can SAIL your way to success” {Second Attempt In Learning…see what she did there?! She’s a genius. Of course she is, she’s my friend.}

So when you’re feeling like a complete failure for not feeding your kids perfectly healthy diets, for not getting them to bed at a decent hour, for not buying them everything they want, for not signing them up for every damn activity they want to do, know that…

YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!

It’s ok to tell them “Suck it up Buttercup! You’re not going to get your way this time.”

You know what else is ok…taking any damn day you want and saying “it’s my day off”.

Feeling alone in your momming adventure?

We all do things a bit differently, and that is totally ok too! Sometimes what worked for us before no longer works. If you’d like help figuring out new ways of doing things give me a call. We’ll dive in to find how you do what you do and why you do it. I’d love to hear from you!


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Want To Feel More Confident?

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