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How to center and ground your way to success…and you won’t find this by Googling

How to center and ground your way to success...and you won't find this by Googling.

What exactly does it mean to be centered and grounded?

These are two different concepts, and they lead us to the same thing-a calmer way of being. When we’re calmer we’re better able to handle situations out of our control and make better choices {read that as we don’t lose our shit as often}.

That, my friends, is the key to success, no matter what success looks like for you.

According to Diana Raab, PhD in her Psychology Today article she defines centeredness as “having a reference point or a place to come back to when life’s challenges and emotions push you off balance.” This is where having tools in your toolbox and goals to achieve come in. Setting powerful goals that you stay connected to are a lot more achievable than just thoughts of what you’d like to accomplish.

Dr. Raab says that “being grounded is the ability to be completely aware and conscious during the present moment.” Basically, to me, being grounded means I have the ability to be mindful in the moment rather than back in the past or out in the future. It’s when I am harmoniously handling the different areas of life as well as taking care of my spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical bodies.

There are many ways to center and ground yourself. You can Google “how to be more centered and grounded” and get a million and a half hits giving you great tips. These tips are all great, and they are all external to us. They are external tools to help us reconnect to that inner Self.

But what happens when these things have lost their effectiveness? Or maybe they only work so well.

One thing that I never thought about before in regards to staying centered and grounded so I can be successful was taking a look at my values and using them to make my decisions and guide me in life. Values are those things that are most important to us and they live in the unconscious mind.

When was the last time you really thought about what’s most important to you on a deep level?

When was the last time you actually sat down to take a look at your values? Do you even know what your values really are? {I sure didn’t. I had a general idea of what I thought they should be according to what others around me said, but I had never really considered what was important to ME.}

 

Here is a 6-step process to figure out what is most important to you so you know how to be successful.

 

STEP 1:

Grab a piece of paper and a pen, find a quiet distraction free place for you to connect to your unconscious mind. The very first answers you hear are coming from your unconscious mind, the place where all your memories and emotions are stored.

STEP 2:

Take a deep breath in through your nose, hold for a second or two, then blow out through your mouth making a 'Ha' sound. This helps you connect to your unconscious mind energetically.

STEP 3:

Ask your unconscious mind what is most important to you in life. You can either choose one of the six main areas of life-Family, Relationships, Career, Personal growth and development, Health and fitness, or Spirituality-or you can focus on life in general. Do this step at least three times. When you start getting repeat answers you know you’ve emptied your unconscious mind {kind of like emptying out a bucket}.

STEP 4:

Put this list in order of importance, as in ‘this value is most important to me and this value is second most important to me’. Then rewrite your list in numerical order. You’re putting this list into a hierarchy so you’ve got something to look at and connect to on a regular basis. Make sure that the bottom value supports the value above it, and that one supports the value above it, and so on leading up to the top value.

STEP 5:

After you’ve put your list in order of importance connect with each value by writing out what that value means to you and why it’s important to you. Simon Sinek talks about the importance of knowing WHY in his Ted Talk. Knowing what something means to you and why it means that strengthens it’s power, and you can use that power to propel you to success.

STEP 6:

Put this list somewhere you will look at it every day. Use this list to help steer you in the direction you want to be going. Use this list to help you be the person you want to be.

That’s my 6-Step process for staying centered and grounded so you can be successful.

When we are clear about our values we are better able to paint a target for where we want out lives to be. We give our unconscious minds a beautiful picture of where we want to go {Bet you didn’t know our unconscious minds are the goal getters while our conscious minds are the goal setters. That’s a blog post for another day.}

We’re better able to handle things that pop up and try to derail us from the path we’re meant to be on and away from the life we want to be living. Keep doing the exercises and using the tools that you Googled, AND keep your values in your awareness daily too.

Until next time!

With lots of fierce love,

Michele

Did you find something new to help you stay centered and grounded so you can become more successful? In the comments let us know what your values are and how you’re going to use them to get you where you want to be.

Need help figuring out what's most important to you?

Sometimes we can't see things that are right in front of our faces. That's when it's a good time to ask for a little help. I'd be honored to help you learn how to communicate with your unconscious mind to help you get your answers.

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