Why are we just going through the motions when there’s so much more to do and feel?
I followed a squirrel today. It led me into a rabbit hole. Before I knew it, I was lost.
So I tried to find myself and I took a break.
Time for a shower.
Is it just me, or do your best ideas come when you’re in the shower too?
It never fails.
I get all soaped up, then BAM!!!
I’m Blinded By The Light – the light of inspiration, that is! (See what I did there? For an extra point, because we’re all secretly keeping score anyway, who sang this and what year did they sing it?) 🤓
The rabbit hole I’m referring to is my iTunes library.
Initially, I went in there to upload some digital files I recently purchased to help me find my inner calm with my youngest child (Ever hear of a strong-willed child? Weeeelllll, mine might win the gold medal for his ability to push every single one of my buttons #sayseverymom). 🥇
I ended up coming across some of my old music and that was the only invitation I needed (like I really needed one) to follow the squirrel.
There was a time in my life when I listened to mostly country music (we all go through phases, ok y’all!). Kenny Chesney didn’t have any idea he was supposed to be my husband. Tim was already taken. And Garth, well, he was going through an identity crisis.
Pre-identity shift, Garth released a song called The Dance.
You remember that song. The one that got played at every wedding and graduation for the next 10 years.
The one that’s actually a perfect metaphor for life.
How many of you (ahem, us 🙋🏼♀️) have lived through an experience, just going through the motions, where at the moment it sucks ass to be in?
The pain is almost too much to bear.
The struggle is real, as in really real!
Maybe you lost your job or decided to take the plunge and start your own business. Maybe you lost a loved one. Maybe you were diagnosed with a life-threatening dis-ease.
The details don’t matter, because the underlying emotions and beliefs begin to accumulate, and fester if not dealt with. The shit builds up!
The way to deal with it is simple…dance.
It won’t work if you’re just going through the motions.
Do the dance.
“And now, I’m glad I didn’t know
The way it all would end, the way it all would go
Our lives are better left to chance, I could have missed the pain
But I’d have to miss, the dance”
I knew at that moment, sitting on the deck…
I knew I would lose you. I knew I would be a single mom too.
I still chose to…do the dance.
I didn’t want to miss…the dance.
So while this time in our lives may be a bit challenging, all of us will come out on the other side one way or the other. Are you just going through the motions? Do you want to come out kicking and screaming like a baby, or do you want to come out dancing?
I choose to…do the dance.