What’s the old saying about guarantees? There’s only 2 things in life that are guaranteed-death and taxes? There is one more…change. Nothing stays the same forever, not even the stars in the sky.
One of the most powerful ways to create change is to shift one’s perspective. When you go from a fixed negative mindset to one of growth and expansion, you create possibility in your life. You open doors and windows that were once closed. You get to dust off the cobwebs and set the wheels of creation into motion.
Someone with a fixed mindset will avoid challenges, they stay in their comfort zone. They typically give up easily, allowing others to overstep boundaries, then become resentful. They either ignore feedback or take it as a personal attack. They become threatened by other people’s success, or even jealous of it. They try too hard and end of overcompensating for their insecurities, only to have things blow up in their face like when a beach ball pops up out of the water.
Someone with a growth mindset embraces challenges, they run towards them because they know they will become stronger in the process. They give their best effort, always, and they learn from feedback because they don’t see it as them failing at something or being attacked, they see it as an opportunity for learning. They are inspired by other people’s success and they model that success. If they don’t know something, they figure out how to gain the knowledge to get the job done.
The big question is, how does one develop a growth mindset? There’s a few things I share with my family, friends and clients that I’ve learned along the way. These tips have helped me come out of the depths of depression and anxiety so I can step into a place of learning and growth, a place where I have more emotional intelligence. This place is where I learn from my emotions instead of allowing my emotions to get the best of me.
There’s even an easy way to remember these tips…R.A.C.E.
- A simple and effective way to start looking at things differently is to notice the positive things that happen throughout your day. Right before bed take a few minutes to do a “recap” of your day. Play a movie in your mind from the moment you wake up until the moment you begin the exercise. Notice all the positive things that occurred-the yummy smell of your coffee as you get ready for work, the smile on a stranger’s face, the ease of your commute. Consciously look for the positive.
Acknowledge and celebrate
- Anytime something positive happens, stop and acknowledge it. Celebrate it. Do the same thing with not-so-positive things. If something happens that throws you off, find the positive in it. This world if full of duality so if there’s something you perceive as negative, start turning things around and find the other side of the spectrum.
Change your dialogue
- There’s a saying in the Hawaiian culture that when translated says, “In the word there is life, and in the word there is death.” The words we use have energy and vibration that help us create our reality. If you are seeing nothing but negativity, try speaking in a more positive way and see what happens.
- There really is no such thing as failure if you really think about it. When you take what happens as feedback, you can course correct so the perceived “failure” becomes a great learning so you can grow.
Now that you know how to change from a fixed mindset to one where you’ll learn and grow, you’ll be able to create the life you’ve always wanted. You’ll create a life abundantly filled with joy and purpose, whatever those look like for you.