8 ways to get unstuck and start living a Fiercely Fresh Life

8 ways to get unstuck and start living a Fiercely Fresh Life

I remember sitting in my reading chair in my bedroom, wondering what the hell I was going to do. I was stuck like never before, and I really wanted to get unstuck.

I had passed the point where my triple negative breast cancer was most likely to return and my doctor had cut our check up visits to once per year {I had been going to see her every three months, then every six. She had become the family member we see every so often.}. She was more and more confident that the things I was doing were working to keep cancer away, and so was I.

So now what?

That meant it was time to deal with the underlying issues that caused my cancer in the first place. Among the physical factors, there were the spiritual, mental, and emotional aspects that needed some attention. The depression and anxiety I had gone through the previous ten years had taken their toll, and since I could breath a little easier I wanted to dive in and find out why I couldn’t shake the shit that kept coming up.

I began my exploration by reading, then reading some more, then reading things I hadn’t read before, then doing things I hadn’t done in a very long time, then doing things I hadn’t ever done before. I slowly but surely started taking action.

In addition to taking action to get unstuck, I began working on my mindset and unconscious programming.

I had learned so much about the unconscious mind and realizing just how much shit was stuck in there. As I continued to learn how to reprogram my brain I learned some really great ways to create the life I wanted.

These are eight ways I began to get unstuck and start living my Fiercely Fresh Life, and how you can begin to live yours too.

  • Let go of the outcome.

I began creating a picture of the life I wanted. I began setting goals. Then I surrendered it all over the the Universe to let it handle all the details of how I was going to get what I wanted.

  • Get rid of the should’s.

The word “should” kept coming up over and over. What “should” I do with my life? How “should” I be? What “should” I have? Well, I started to look at what I needed instead of all the “should’s”.

  • Use your emotions as a GPS to guide you to what you need to learn.

Our emotions are there for a reason. Despite what you may think it’s not to hijack us and turn us into raving lunatics, as much fun as that may be sometimes. I started personifying my emotions when they came up and having a conversation with them. Angry Annie and I had many conversations. I also learned how to deal with my emotions in the moment rather than allowing them to add to the baggage I was already carrying around. I’m developing an online course to help you do the same.

  • Ask for help.

Keep your sights on the results you’re looking for and the changes you want to make, instead of the excuses that keep you stuck. Asking for help can help you find resources you never knew where there. The more you ask for help, the more opportunities and resources start coming out of the wood works.

  • Get out of the weeds.

If you’re feeling anxiety it’s because you’re focused on all the things you need to do to get you to the future you want. When you look at all the things it can get overwhelming. Come back to the present and look at the big picture.

  • Connect to your Higher Self.

Connecting to the part of you that has all the answers, and trusting her more often, will help you make the decisions you need to move you in the direction you want to go, then take the actions you’re guided to take.

  • Embrace progress, not perfection and imperfectly perfect/perfectly imperfect.

Life is all about learning and growing. Work toward making progress and you’ll move forward more quickly. And stop beating yourself up for everything, right now!

  • Turn your frown upside down.

What’s the opposite of upside down? Rightside up! More specifically, when a negative thought comes up, stop it in it’s tracks and turn it around. We call this reframing in NLP. Take on a new perspective. Open your eyes and heart to the positive, the opposite of negative.

I’m not saying it’s going to be easy to implement all eight of these tips and get you unstuck. What I am saying is if you take one at a time, sooner or later you’re going to wake up with the life you keep saying you want. Making changes doesn’t have to be hard. You don’t need the “go big or go home” mentality. Making small changes in your programming by following these eight tips will lead you in the right direction.

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How to create your own unique path

How to create your own unique path

How would you like to create your own unique path?

Would you like to quit living according to the status quo, quit living Groundhog day over and over?

Then have I got some tips for you!!!

Anytime we are trying to create change in our lives it takes a few things. The first thing that comes to mind for me is courage.

I sat in my room one night, sobbing uncontrollably, not knowing how the hell to get off the floor. Suddenly, there was a shift. I took a deep breath, stood up, and like the Cowardly Lion screamed, “Put ‘em up! Put ‘em up!”.

I knew there was going to be a battle.

It was going to be hard.

I had no idea how to create my own unique path.

I also didn’t know just how fucking amazing it would be to finally be free of my demons and heal my wounds.

So I put one foot in front of the other and started walking, making the smallest of changes at first {actually, I slept on it for the night, that way my unconscious mind had a chance to process all the shit that was running through my head, then the next morning I got up and started walking.}.

See, I was a survivor. I had survived Triple Negative Breast Cancer {an aggressive beast and the most difficult to treat and keep from coming back}. It’s only co-incident that I’m writing this blog for you, all about creating your own unique path, on the eve of what would’ve been my 13th wedding anniversary. I say would’ve been because my husband unexpectedly passed away six weeks after I was diagnosed. Again, survivor.

According to Jeff Olson in The Slight Edge, “And if you can survive, then you can succeed. You don’t need to do some brilliant, impossible thing. You don’t need to learn some insanely difficult skills, or have some genius-level brainstorm of an innovative idea. All you have to do is keep doing the things that got you this far.”

But the things that had gotten me that far weren’t the things I knew I should be doing, so some things had to change.

If we want the change to be permanent, there are four things that are required.

These are four things you can do to create your own unique path!

  • Release the baggage you’ve been carrying around from your past.

Baggage is all the repressed negative emotions and limiting beliefs we carry with us through out our lives. An emotionally significant event occurs when we’re young, we don’t know how to process it, we develop some limiting belief about ourself {I’m not _____ enough, or some other bullshit} or the world, then our unconscious mind holds on to it until we’re ready to deal with it.

This is where the Mental and Emotional Release Technique® I use with my clients comes in. In a two day session we uncover the greater problem that was created by your thoughts about what was happening at the time. The really cool thing is that you don’t have to relive the actual event! Your unconscious mind has already saved it for you and knows exactly what to release.

  • Create a compelling vision for your life and set some goals according to what’s important to you.

There’s so many ways to do this. Visions boards, visualizations, meditations, journaling, on and on. How many of those actually align with what’s important to you though?

In a Breakthrough Session, we explore the things that are important to you-your values.

Our values are ingrained in us by the time we’re 5 {I’ve read as early as 2 as well.}. Once we release the baggage you’ve been carrying around, your values may shift a bit. That’s because some of the shit you’ve been carrying around may not even be yours. How would you know what’s important to you and WHY it’s important when someone else’s shit is in the way? Or your shit from long before you joined this time? How can you create your own unique path?!?!

Once you have your values in place you can start making decisions that are aligned with them, which will get you what you want and get you where you want to go a hell of a lot faster.

  • Stay focused on the picture you have in your mind for what you want your life to look like.

Once your baggage is out of the way and you’ve started using your values to get you where you want to go, it’s super important to stay focused.

One way to stay focused is to keep your values and vision you’ve created for yourself in plain sight every day and give them a little attention. Energy flows where attention goes! And do it with intention.

Another way to stay focused is to have some accountability with someone outside yourself. My suggestions would be to find a friend you know will keep you on the straight and narrow and be completely honest with you at all times, or invest in yourself and hire a coach who’s only job is to hold you accountable for the things you say you want and help you with the actions and tasks it will take to get you there. This is one of the things I do with my clients when they sign up for Integrative Coaching with me.

  • Take action, every day.

This one is completely up to you. Staying focused is up to you too, and I’m here to support you the best way I can. However, I can’t take action for you.

Are you 100% at cause for the things in your life, or are you a victim? {Here’s a little spoiler alert…you’re always at cause. It’s either out of creative responsibility or its out of “poor little me” victimhood. I was the poor little victim for so long!! I was exhausted.}

Remember, Jeff Olson said it doesn’t have to be some insanely difficult task. Compound interest doesn’t just work for money. It works for being more active, building a business from scratch, being who you want to be. Little actions done over and over, day in and day out, will eventually lead you to the greatest results. How do you think ants make their homes?

There you have it! Four ways to create lasting change. Four ways to create your own unique path. Now go take some baby steps to get you started.

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How imperfection brings the greatest joy

How imperfection brings the greatest joy

Do you know how exhausting it is to be a perfectionist? {I’m going to assume you do since you’re reading this.} It totally sucks, sucks the joy right out of life!

Hi! My name is Michele and I’m a recovering perfectionist. It’s nice to meet you.

I used to be such a perfectionist that I wouldn’t let anyone come over to my house unless I had dusted, vacuumed, cleaned the floors, kitchen and bathroom AND cleaned the baseboards. My obsessive perfectionism isolated me a few times too many.

The idea of perfection that society shoves down our throat keeps us in that “I’m not _____ enough” mentality. Well, I say, fuck that! I’m just as enough as anyone else, and so are you.

In her book “The Gifts of Imperfection”, Brene Brown states “It is in the process of embracing our imperfections that we find our truest gifts: courage, compassion, and connection.” This couldn’t be more true!

But how do you embrace imperfection? I’ve got 3 tips for you to help with this process.

  1. Figuring out what exactly perfection and imperfection even mean for you is a good place to start. Redefining, or reframing, a particular word or behavior can be really powerful. It’s one of the things I teach in my 7-day Emotional Awareness Course {Stay tuned for this. It’s gonna be sooo good!}. When you know what something means to you, you’re more likely to focus on that than what everyone else is saying. You’re able to stand firmly in your belief with confidence.
  2. Finding the gift(s) that perfection and imperfection have for you can help you accept both and allow either in your life. For me, perfection brings the gift of thorough efficiency where I check and double check something before putting it out or completing a task. It helps me correct any errors or mistakes I might be making. Imperfection brings me the gift of laughter, as in allowing myself to laugh at myself for making mistakes, rather than beating myself up over them.
  3. Finding the root cause of your perfectionist ways can help you eliminate this mindset so you can develop a more empowering way of thinking. Mental and Emotional Release ® has been one of the best ways to release my baggage without having to relive every gruesome detail of my past. MER works with your unconscious mind to release the repressed negative emotions and limiting beliefs that stem from an emotionally significant event that occurred when you were young. When you see the event from the perspective of who you are now, rather than the frightened or confused child you were back then, you’re able to see that things really weren’t as bad as you once thought, allowing your unconscious mind to release the baggage that has continued to accumulate over the years.

Since taking action with these tips I’ve found a lot more ease and joy in my life. The urgency of life has decreased, along with the depression and anxiety. Getting clear on what things mean to me and learning to work with my thoughts and perceptions has given me an unshakable foundation upon which to stand. Releasing my baggage from the past has freed me up to be who I want to be, not who I think everyone else thinks I should be.

Both being perfect and being imperfect are absolutely necessary for a joyful and Fiercely Fresh Life.

So, tell me, what does perfection and/or imperfection mean to you? What are the gifts that either perfection or imperfection have for you? Leave a comment and share with us your perspective. It just may help someone else figure out a more empowering interpretation for them to take on, helping them move forward.

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This is what happens when you tell the world to f*#% off.

This is what happens when you tell the world to f*#% off.

Have you ever wanted to tell the whole world to just fuck off?

Did you actually do it and follow through? For once in my life I did just that.

Last week was a rough week for me. At the beginning of the week I backed over my chihuahua. My best friend. The being that has been with me through all the shit I’ve gone through over the last ten years. To say I was devastated would be a total fucking understatement. The connection I had with Brode was the deepest, strongest connection I’ve ever had with another living being, maybe even my kids.

After taking care of his lifeless little body and helping my kids through this traumatic event, I decided I wasn’t going to do things the way I usually do.

When things get challenging for me mentally and emotionally I get busy doing. Anything and everything. I distract myself. Something in me knew I had to change this way of being so I could step into the way of being I really wanted to be.

As a life coach I’ve got lots of tools to help me get through difficult situations. I coach people on how to deal with their emotions and use them to educate themselves on the lessons life has for us. It was time to practice what I preach.

I did a lot of breathing, a lot of sleeping, some yoga, and a lot of ho’oponopono {This is a Hawaiian forgiveness process. I had to forgive myself for the guilt I felt for killing my best friend}. I leaned into the pain, the sadness, the depression {because that fucker tried to come back}.

The thing I did that had the most impact for me was to tell the world-my commitments, my responsibilities and my “shoulds”- to fuck off!

I did it in a much kinder, gentler way of course {except in my head}, and setting this boundary was so important. So was giving myself permission to check out for as long as I needed. Doing these gave me the courage I needed to feel every ounce of shit I was feeling.

Then I dove head first into every self-care practice I knew. The one that worked the best? A Breakthrough Session!

A fellow coach led me through the process, where my dog showed up multiple times. The last time he showed up, I had the biggest breakthrough of my life. He gifted me, and I gifted myself, with unconditional self-love and acceptance.

Talk about freedom!

Who would’ve thought that telling the world to fuck off would be so liberating?

Now obviously I’m not telling you to run out and start telling everyone to fuck off when you don’t want to do something.

What I am telling you is to give yourself the time and energy you need to get you through whatever it is you’re going through. I’m telling you to break the patterns that keep you spinning in the same spot over and over, living the same drama on a different day. I’m telling you to quit taking care of everyone else and take care of yourself, whatever that looks like, and let others know what you need.

Sometimes when we take a few steps back we’re able to take a running start to get us where we want to go.

You want to know what a Breakthrough Session is, don’t you?

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How to center and ground your way to success…and you won’t find this by Googling

How to center and ground your way to success…and you won’t find this by Googling

What exactly does it mean to be centered and grounded?

These are two different concepts, and they lead us to the same thing-a calmer way of being. When we’re calmer we’re better able to handle situations out of our control and make better choices {read that as we don’t lose our shit as often}.

That, my friends, is the key to success, no matter what success looks like for you.

According to Diana Raab, PhD in her Psychology Today article she defines centeredness as “having a reference point or a place to come back to when life’s challenges and emotions push you off balance.” This is where having tools in your toolbox and goals to achieve come in. Setting powerful goals that you stay connected to are a lot more achievable than just thoughts of what you’d like to accomplish.

Dr. Raab says that “being grounded is the ability to be completely aware and conscious during the present moment.” Basically, to me, being grounded means I have the ability to be mindful in the moment rather than back in the past or out in the future. It’s when I am harmoniously handling the different areas of life as well as taking care of my spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical bodies.

There are many ways to center and ground yourself. You can Google “how to be more centered and grounded” and get a million and a half hits giving you great tips. These tips are all great, and they are all external to us. They are external tools to help us reconnect to that inner Self.

But what happens when these things have lost their effectiveness? Or maybe they only work so well.

One thing that I never thought about before in regards to staying centered and grounded so I can be successful was taking a look at my values and using them to make my decisions and guide me in life. Values are those things that are most important to us and they live in the unconscious mind.

When was the last time you really thought about what’s most important to you on a deep level?

When was the last time you actually sat down to take a look at your values? Do you even know what your values really are? {I sure didn’t. I had a general idea of what I thought they should be according to what others around me said, but I had never really considered what was important to ME.}

Here is a 6-step process to figure out what is most important to you so you know how to be successful.

STEP 1:

Grab a piece of paper and a pen, find a quiet distraction free place for you to connect to your unconscious mind. The very first answers you hear are coming from your unconscious mind, the place where all your memories and emotions are stored.

STEP 2:

Take a deep breath in through your nose, hold for a second or two, then blow out through your mouth making a ‘Ha’ sound. This helps you connect to your unconscious mind energetically.

STEP 3:

Ask your unconscious mind what is most important to you in life. You can either choose one of the six main areas of life-Family, Relationships, Career, Personal growth and development, Health and fitness, or Spirituality-or you can focus on life in general. Do this step at least three times. When you start getting repeat answers you know you’ve emptied your unconscious mind {kind of like emptying out a bucket}.

STEP 4:

Put this list in order of importance, as in ‘this value is most important to me and this value is second most important to me’. Then rewrite your list in numerical order. You’re putting this list into a hierarchy so you’ve got something to look at and connect to on a regular basis. Make sure that the bottom value supports the value above it, and that one supports the value above it, and so on leading up to the top value.

STEP 5:

After you’ve put your list in order of importance connect with each value by writing out what that value means to you and why it’s important to you. Simon Sinek talks about the importance of knowing WHY in his Ted Talk. Knowing what something means to you and why it means that strengthens it’s power, and you can use that power to propel you to success.

STEP 6:

Put this list somewhere you will look at it every day. Use this list to help steer you in the direction you want to be going. Use this list to help you be the person you want to be.

That’s my 6-Step process for staying centered and grounded so you can be successful.

When we are clear about our values we are better able to paint a target for where we want out lives to be. We give our unconscious minds a beautiful picture of where we want to go {Bet you didn’t know our unconscious minds are the goal getters while our conscious minds are the goal setters. That’s a blog post for another day.}

We’re better able to handle things that pop up and try to derail us from the path we’re meant to be on and away from the life we want to be living. Keep doing the exercises and using the tools that you Googled, AND keep your values in your awareness daily too.

Until next time!

With lots of fierce love,

Michele

Did you find something new to help you stay centered and grounded so you can become more successful? In the comments let us know what your values are and how you’re going to use them to get you where you want to be.

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I had a fabulous Mothers Day, and I still feel like a failure.

I had a fabulous Mothers Day, and I still feel like a failure.

Even after a fabulous Mothers Day, I still feel like a total failure {I thought I was supposed to get a day off or something}.

Why? Because I’m not doing a good enough job {According to who?!?!}

When you’re a mom, single or married, you don’t get a day off, no matter what anyone says. Food still needs to be cooked, dishes still need to be done, laundry still needs to get washed {ran out of underwear…again}, and kids still fight over stupid shit. There’s always something to do, or something that needs to be redone because it wasn’t done right the first time. Perfection can be a real bitch!

So, if all the usual still happens, why do we have this expectation that the world stops when we have a day set aside for us?

Because we still think the outside world is needed to tell us that we do is enough and that we are enough.

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The thing is…WE’RE ALREADY ENOUGH!

We bust our asses to give our families the best possible lives. We bend over backwards to give them what we, or they, think they need, even to our detriment. Maybe we’re looking for their approval, their love. Maybe we’re just looking for a little acknowledgment. Either way, we just want everyone, including ourselves, to be happy. Happiness, though, is something one can only find within themselves.

Kids are the perfect example of finding happiness inside. My kids may get pissed at me for not letting them buy the latest video game, or the newest this, the coolest that. Yet it never fails, ten minutes later they’re all up in my grill giving me hugs and kisses and telling me they love me. I’m sure as they get older this may change, and it’s my responsibility as their parent to guide them in such a way that they don’t turn into the assholes that think they can have whatever they want whenever they want it. Even when they get disappointed, they’re still able to find their happy.

And so can we!

Part of being a mom and guiding them through life is knowing that I am going to fail sometimes.

I saw in one of my boys classroom a cute little sign that said FAIL-First Attempt In Learning. That struck me as pretty damn awesome. My immediate thought was it’s totally ok to fail. When I do, I just get back up and keep going. My kids taught me that, among other things.

When I shared this with one of my mom friends she said “even if you need a second attempt, it’s still ok because then you can SAIL your way to success” {Second Attempt In Learning…see what she did there?! She’s a genius. Of course she is, she’s my friend.}

So when you’re feeling like a complete failure for not feeding your kids perfectly healthy diets, for not getting them to bed at a decent hour, for not buying them everything they want, for not signing them up for every damn activity they want to do, know that…

YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!

It’s ok to tell them “Suck it up Buttercup! You’re not going to get your way this time.”

You know what else is ok…taking any damn day you want and saying “it’s my day off”.

Feeling alone in your momming adventure?

We all do things a bit differently, and that is totally ok too! Sometimes what worked for us before no longer works. If you’d like help figuring out new ways of doing things give me a call. We’ll dive in to find how you do what you do and why you do it. I’d love to hear from you!


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How to get the life you’ve always wanted

How to get the life you’ve always wanted

There’s just something so inspiring about the name Michele, isn’t there?

It’s no wonder this pic by Michele James of Michele James Photography inspired me to write this blog post.

This picture reminds me of what I’ve done over the last few years along my personal growth journey. I’ve gone from a depressed, anxious, angry shell of a woman to a confident badass living a Fiercely Fresh Life. 

And you can go from where you are now to your own Fiercely Fresh Life!

I know what you’re probably thinking…that’s too hard! Life is already hard enough. I can’t do that. I’ve got kids to take care of, bills to pay.

Yeah, me too.

The thing is, it’s easier than you think.

The reason I used this picture is because it depicts exactly what you need to do to get you where you want to go…look down the path to your past and find the gold nuggets.

There may not be gold nuggets right out in the open, but they are there for you to find when you go digging {and I think it’s time to get a little dirty, don’t you?}.

At one time the building in the picture was brand new and unscathed, just like the events in your life. Then life kept going, and going, and going. Your unconscious mind holds on to every memory along the way so you don’t have to consciously do it {that would be waaayyyyy too much to remember anyway}. That’s how we can suddenly remember something from our past that we haven’t given a thought to in years.

In order to learn from our past so we can move forward, we need to learn how to communicate with our unconscious minds (UCM). When we work with our UCM we’re able to release old repressed negative emotions and limiting beliefs that came from those events in our past that had an impact on us. It’s that baggage that’s holding us down and keeping us stuck.

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It would be amazing to move one step closer to the life you keep saying you want, wouldn’t it?

Believe me, I know how scary that sounds. That’s why I’m here to help you through it. You don’t have to go it alone.

Any good sports team will tell you that the way they became as good as they are is because they had some help, their coach. Doing things as a team gets things done a whole lot faster too {just ask any kindergarten teacher}. 

So take a look at this beautiful picture and see if you can find the gold nuggests that are hidden within. There’s a past rich with history and gold, just like yours. Then call me. I’ll get out my pick axe and come help you mine for treasure.

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Still trying to balance life? Here’s what to do instead.

Still trying to balance life? Here’s what to do instead.

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Just like these stairs are pieces that get us somewhere, the things we do in life get us where we want to go. Figuring out how each piece fits into place helps us create ease, grace and flow {and who doesn’t want that?!?!}.

Each stair works harmoniously with the next to get us to our destination, right? That’s how each area of our life, and each of our 4 bodies {more on that in a minute}, work too. They say it’s the journey not the destination, so during the journey we need to make everything work in harmony.

There’s a totally different energy to harmony too. There’s a sense that the effort we’re putting in to what we’re doing will lead us to great rewards, and the greatest reward is a beautiful dance where everyone and everything is coordinated and aligned.  That sounds a hell of lot more fun than “balance” to me.

But how do we get there?

I’ve got 5 tips for you that will help you step off the fulcrum and start dancing your way to a fun and Fiercely Fresh Life.

Tip #1: Be grateful for the things in your life.

We’ve all heard about how an attitude of gratitude can change your life. It’s true. Sometimes though, it’s hard to be grateful for a full plate. My suggestion is to reframe how you look at that plate. There may be a lot there, and you GET to create and participate in life rather than HAVE to get shit done. Wayne Dyer said it best, “If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” Boom! New lenses help us see more clearly.

Tip #2: Try on different routines

We all have routines for the things we do. Routines help us have some structure to our lives so we don’t have our heads in the clouds all the time. If a routine starts to get a little too mundane for you, switch things up a bit. I tried so hard to get up in the morning and get my workout done, then meditate, then get ready, then get the boys up, then…then…then…

I realized that I need to wake the hell up before doing much of anything so I’ve started getting up and moving around the house a bit {quietly of course, shhhhh, don’t wake the kids yet!!!!}. By allowing myself at least half an hour to actually wake up before jumping into my routine, I’ve been more motivated to keep that routine going. Boom! It’s all about flexibility.

Tip #3: Prioritize

Ahhhhh…the to-do list. You know the one that never seems to get shorter, only longer. We all have these too. There are only so many hours in the day so we need to figure out a way to get the important shit done {I fed the kids yesterday, do I really have to do it again today?}

Sit down with your list on a regular basis and connect with it. Take a look at the tasks that are on it and figure out what needs to be done now, what can wait until later, and what can you ask for help with {OMG!!! Did she just say ask for help?!?! Yes, yes I did. But that’s for another day and another blog post}. Make columns down the page and put each task into the appropriate column. Boom! Taking back your power.

Tip #4: Boundaries

Oh boy! Do you even know what boundaries are? I’ve posted about them on my FB page. You should check it out.

According to Websters Dictionary a boundary is something that indicates or fixes a limit or extent. There are other definitions that come about from the psychology arena, but this one, for me, is the simplest and easiest to understand. It’s pretty self-explanatory.

The thing is we have to set boundaries with ourselves as much as we do with others. I have set a general goal for myself to be more productive. In order to do that I had to set the boundary with myself that I would only play games on my phone for 30 minutes a day. I still found myself stepping over my own boundary and getting distracted, so I set an even clearer boundary and took all game apps off my phone.

When we set boundaries we’re acknowledging what’s ok with us and what’s not. If we allow those boundaries to be stepped over, we end up full of resentment, or worse yet, beating ourselves up. The thing is, we need to take a look at how we allowed the boundary to be stepped over in the first place. Were we trying to people please again? {Not that I ever did anything like that.} Were we distracting ourselves from something deeper?

Get clear on your boundaries, for yourself and others, and have the courage to enforce them. That courage is already within you, so go find it {If you need help, let me know. It’s what I do.}

Tip #5: Be mindful of all four of your bodies

Did you know you have three bodies other than your physical body? You have your spiritual body, your mental body, and your emotional body. All four bodies are connected, deeply. Starting with your spiritual body, any dis-ease runs down hill, meaning that when your physical body starts to shows disease, the ailment has been around for a while, it’s just now getting down to the bottom of the totem pole.

That’s how I was diagnosed with breast cancer. My spiritual, mental, and emotional bodies were so broken and battered. My poor physical body couldn’t keep everything afloat anymore. The lump I found was directly over my heart, the thing I was most disconnected from. My mental and emotional states were full of depression and anxiety. It’s because I didn’t have a belief system, other than gloom and doom.

I fought the cancer physically of course, and I also found ways to fight it with spiritual, mental, and emotional healing. I’m six and a half years cancer free and it’s because I treated the whole me.

When making decisions, tackling your to-do list, spending time with those you love, pretty much anything you do, be mindful of how it’s effecting your spiritual body, your mental body, your emotional body, and your physical body.

There you have it. Easy and effortless ways to get off the teeter totter and start dancing your way to harmony and YOUR Fiercely Fresh Life.

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How to survive the holidays with your sanity intact, Part 3

How to survive the holidays with your sanity intact, Part 3

Welcome to Part 3 of the How To Survive The Holidays With Your Sanity Intact series.

Do you ever wonder how you’re going to get through the holidays without major stress?

Do you end up busting your butt to make everything perfect, just for things to fall apart?

You try so hard to buy the perfect gifts for everyone. In the hustle of the season you forgot about your cousin’s kids, and they’ve decided to come to the family dinner this year. It’s the day of the dinner, actually dinner will be served in just a couple of hours. What are you going to do now?!

Dinner is at your house this year. You’ve set up everything so beautifully. You’ve slaved in the kitchen all day making hor devours, the main course, and last minute side dishes. You’ve put the pies back in the oven to reheat them while everyone eats. While everyone is enjoying the gorgeous food you’ve prepared someone asks if something is burning. THE PIES!!!! What are you going to do now?

1st: take a deep breath, or 10.

2nd: laugh hysterically, even if you have to fake it. Eventually someone else will start laughing with you and your fake cry/laugh becomes totally authentic.

3rd: ask yourself some of the “right questions”

What are these “right questions”? Debbie Ford gives you ten in her book “The Right Questions: Ten Essential Questions to Guide You to an Extraordinary Life”.

Two of these questions I use ALL. THE. TIME.

“Am I looking for what’s right or am I looking for what’s wrong?”

As a former Negative Nelly I was always looking for what was wrong with the situation. When you look for what’s wrong, that’s usually what you’ll find. Start looking for what’s right. Instead of seeing the burnt pies see the possibility of family members coming together to cut out the burnt parts and throw the rest in a bowl with ice cream and call it cobbler.

“Am I standing in my power or am I trying to please another?”

As a former People Pleaser I was constantly striving for perfection because I had the silly thought that I had to have everything together so I was the star of the family. That only led me to being depressed and anxious, and broke because I was buying presents for everyone who was going to show up at my house, and of course I had to have extras just in case someone showed up unexpectedly.

Once I started asking myself some of the “right questions” I started to see my motivations and intentions more clearly. I was constantly giving my power to be happy over to others. My happy was already in me, not in the opinion of others. That, for me, was freedom from the little catastrophe’s in life. My life didn’t fall apart with every little bump anymore. These questions also helped me reframe my thinking so that I could enjoy what was going on rather than struggling to control it all.

If you’d like to learn more about the “right questions” sign up for my FREE 7-day Get Through The Holidays With Ease Challenge. I’ll be going over these questions, and more, in more detail, as well as some other tips I use to help me deal with my emotions in the moment so I can life a Fiercely Fresh Life. We start October 15th.

If you’d like to know more about the other tips I’ll be sharing check out Part 1 and Part 2 of my How To Survive The Holidays With Your Sanity Intact series.

If you know someone else who would like to get through the holidays sanely, please share these tips and the challenge with them.

Get Through The Holidays With Ease Challenge

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In this challenge you’ll learn some of my best techniques to deal with your emotions in the moment so they don’t start causing chaos with those around you {or in your own head}.

Over the course of 7 days I’ll teach you some quick and easy tools to help you deal with those emotional upsets that end up ruining the holidays. I know these tools work, because I’ve gone from a woman full of anger, resentment and anxiety over the tiniest thing, to a Fiercely Fresh Bulldog who’s committed to giving up “perfection” and keeping my family close. My clients have used them with great success too!

These tips and tricks are portable so you can take them wherever you go this holiday season. You have NO excuses for NOT using them, AND they will allow you to have a Happy Holidays no matter what others are doing. Plus you can use them throughout the rest of the year to keep you balanced and happy.

By the end of the week, you’ll have some really awesome, simple, and powerful tools to help you deal with situations and emotions in the moment, so you don’t get sidetracked by what the outside world is doing.

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How to survive the holidays with your sanity intact, Part 2

How to survive the holidays with your sanity intact, Part 2

Welcome to Part 2 of the How To Survive The Holidays With Your Sanity Intact series.

Are you excited about the holidays coming up? Or are you feeling a little stressed out by them?

Maybe you feel a little disconnected from the true meaning of the holidays. It’s really easy to do, especially since retail stores are setting up their Christmas decorations in September now. Hello!!! Summer wasn’t even over yet and I saw Santa and Christmas trees plastered all over the place.

It’s hard to feel connected to something that’s still a few months away but being shoved down your throat.

Today’s post is all about learning how to connect, and stay connected, to the spirit of the holidays, which can be taken with you throughout the rest of the year.

What’s this connection I’m talking about? It’s that inner guidance system that gives you all the answers you need. It’s that part of you that just “knows” what’s right for you. It’s inside you, not out on the store shelves.

Connecting to this spirit, your spirit, is essential to living a fulfilling life. It’s how we create the lives we say we want.

I’ve got three tips to harnessing the power of this connection:

  1. This goes along with my last post about being short tempered. Finding acceptance around a situation can help you breeze right through any yuck that may be there. To find acceptance all you need to do is separate out the facts about what’s going on and the story you’re telling yourself about it. For example, I was shopping in Costco the first or second week of September. Summer hadn’t yet turned to fall. I walk out from one aisle to see a Halloween display directly across the aisle from a Christmas display. I felt myself getting angry that it was so damn early and I was seeing Christmas stuff. This is a problem for me because I am trying to teach my kids about not buying into the idea that they need stuff to be happy and have fun. So, rather than let my anger get the best of me I stopped and took a picture and posted it on my Instagram feed. I separated the facts-I was staring at two store displays, from the story-this world is going to hell, we consume way too much, we produce way too much plastic, we can’t even get through summer without someone shoving consumerism down our throats (and you know the rabbit hole goes much deeper). I chose to make a little fun and light of what I was seeing. I posted the picture and moved on.
  2. When you come up against a definition of something that is based on society and you feel that sense of obligation to “keep up with the Jones’s come up, redefine that something to align with your Higher Self. This goes back to my example from above in that I can get all upset about not being able to get this stuff that society says I need to have a wonderful Christmas, or I can redefine what a wonderful Christmas means to me. You can do this with a single word too. I’ve redefined many words, which allows me to live my life on my terms.
  3. This little beauty will help you make decisions from that place of inner guidance. I call it Yum, Yuck, Oh Fuck. It’s adapted from Tom Robbins idea that there are only two mantras-yum and yuck. I added the Oh Fuck because anytime I feel the Oh Fuck I know it’s a big decision that can lead me to great success or have detrimental consequences. When making a decision think about the choices. Does choice #1 make you feel yummy or yucky? Does choice #2 make you feel yummy or yucky? Whichever one feels yummy, that’s the one you go with. It really is that simple, even with all the things you’re telling yourself “could” happen. If any of the choices make you go Oh Fuck, if it’s a good feeling that arises in your gut, go for it. If it’s that bad feeling that you just can’t ignore, run for the hills.

These tips will help you not only connect to your own spirit but that of others, which is what the holidays are really about anyway, right?

If you’d like to learn more sign up for my FREE 7-day Get Through The Holidays With Ease Challenge. I’ll be going over these tips in more detail as well as others. We start October 15th.

If you’d like to learn other tips for keeping your sanity during the holidays check out Part 1 of the How To Survive The Holidays With Your Sanity Intact series.

If you know someone else who would like to get through the holidays sanely, please share these tips and the challenge with them.

Get Through The Holidays With Ease Challenge

Sign up for the FREE 7-day Get Through The Holidays With Ease Challenge. 

In this challenge you’ll learn some of my best techniques to deal with your emotions in the moment so they don’t start causing chaos with those around you {or in your own head}.

Over the course of 7 days I’ll teach you some quick and easy tools to help you deal with those emotional upsets that end up ruining the holidays. I know these tools work, because I’ve gone from a woman full of anger, resentment and anxiety over the tiniest thing, to a Fiercely Fresh Bulldog who’s committed to giving up “perfection” and keeping my family close. My clients have used them with great success too!

These tips and tricks are portable so you can take them wherever you go this holiday season. You have NO excuses for NOT using them, AND they will allow you to have a Happy Holidays no matter what others are doing. Plus you can use them throughout the rest of the year to keep you balanced and happy.

By the end of the week, you’ll have some really awesome, simple, and powerful tools to help you deal with situations and emotions in the moment, so you don’t get sidetracked by what the outside world is doing.

Sign up today! We start October 15th.


Sign up now