With all of us being in isolation, it can be easy to become overwhelmed. So many new changes are going on and they are happening so quickly, it may behoove us to slow down and take inventory of a few things.
Recently I shared 4 tips on how to combat overwhelm while we learn how to navigate all the changes that are going on in the world right now.
1 – Release your baggage (This can be done in a number of ways)
2 – Create a compelling future (This is done by setting SMART goals, and that’s what this blog post is primarily going to focus on)
3 – Take action (It’s just as easy to take action as it is to not)
4 – Maintain focusing on what you want (as opposed to what you don’t want)
Releasing baggage is the first thing I do with my clients so we have a clean slate upon which to work.
I do this by using a mix of NLP, Mental and Emotional Release ®, Shadow and energy work to blast the repressed negative emotions and limiting beliefs that keep them stuck running through molasses (true statement from one of my clients).
Once the canvas is clean, it’s time to start creating.
One way to ensure you will achieve your goals is to use the power of your unconscious mind. So let’s grab the paints or crayons and help that creative little 5-year-old get us where we want to go.
When creating your future, it’s important to give your unconscious mind something to go after. Like a child wants to appease a parent, your unconscious mind wants to help you get what you want. So here’s a powerful way to get what you want.
Start by setting a SMART goal. A SMART goal looks like this:
S – Specific and simple
When setting a goal, be as specific as you possibly can while also keeping things simple. Some of us can get lost in the weeds of specificity so be careful that you don’t go down a rabbit hole so far that you start to feel overwhelmed.
The point is to have enough specific details that you’re painting a clear picture for your unconscious mind to know what to look for, and maintain some flexibility in how everything shows up. You want to avoid including so many details that you miss an ample opportunity to change directions if you need to.
M – Measurable and Meaningful To You
Set a goal that can be tracked. Because if you aren’t able to measure your progress, you won’t know how close you are to achieving things. Keep a journal or a spreadsheet to help you visualize where you’re at. This should also be something that someone else can measure and hold you accountable for.
Make sure the goal you’re setting is meaningful to you. If you don’t find value in something, is it really worth anything at all? It’s great to want to do things for others, and if a goal is something someone else wants you’re less likely to maintain your focus and take action on a consistent basis.
A – Achievable, All areas of life, As if now
You know something is achievable if you have done it before or if someone else has done it before. And if you’re not sure, I bet you’ll find something on YouTube. By doing a little bit of research, you’ll either give yourself the inspiration and motivation you need to achieve your goal or you’ll find something you may not have thought about that can help you achieve your goal. Either way, you’ll learn something.
When creating a goal make sure you’re not sabotaging yourself. If you have a goal to lose weight and your partner or family could care less, you’re going to be challenged in staying motivated. If you want to save money for a rainy day but your spouse spends money like crazy, you’re going to be challenged.
Does your family support you and your goal? Does your career offer the flexibility you need to achieve your goal? Do your spiritual practices help you achieve your goal? Make sure that all areas of life support your goal. If they don’t, adjust your goal.
Your unconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between reality and fantasy so why not write your goal as if it’s happening now? This is a huge factor in being able to create and manifest what you want. If you create your goal as if you’re living it now, you will start to attract the things that make your goal easier to achieve. You move closer and closer to the real-i-zation of your goal.
R – Realistic and Responsible/Ecological
To me, being realistic is a must. Also, I don’t hold the same definition as some for what realistic actually is. I hold the belief that anything is possible and that there are many solutions to a single problem. That being said, if I set the goal to earn $100,000 in one month with what I do as a coach, that doesn’t align with my value of integrity so it’s not realistic for me. Is it still possible? Sure. But I’m not going to go against my values to make it so.
Being responsible with our goals helps us stay connected on a deeper level. If my goal isn’t good for the community I live in, or my virtual community, I may want to rethink my goal. This is what being ecological means. We’re all connected so if I hurt my community, I also hurt myself.
If my goal is to lose weight that’s great and going to the gym to help me achieve that goal may not be ecological at this time (sans the fact that the gyms are closed, and you get my point). ‘Do no harm’ is what I think about when I think about making my goals responsible and ecological.
T – Time-based and Toward What You Want
Our unconscious mind organizes our memories based on a timeline. That’s one reason Mental and Emotional Release ® therapy is so powerful. When our goals are based on time we can put them into our timeline in the future which energetically pulls us in that direction. And since the unconscious mind is already organized in that fashion, it gives our unconscious mind something to go after. The unconscious mind is the goal-getter while the conscious mind is the goal-setter. So set a time in which you will achieve your goal.
Another important part of goal setting and being able to stay focused on achieving the goal is having motivation. Motivation is much stronger when we move towards the things we want in life.
Think about it for a minute. You want to lose weight because you think you’re fat, and you don’t want to be fat anymore.🙋
You start your weight loss journey and you get to the point where you’ve lost a significant amount of weight. Then you tell yourself you deserve a “treat” for all the hard work you’ve put in. Then you tell yourself you deserve a “treat” for coming so far. Then you tell yourself one “treat” isn’t going to hurt. Before you know it, you’ve had so many “treats” that you’re back where you started.
You had moved far enough away from what you didn’t want that you lost your motivation to keep going. This is a great example of how important it is to know what you want too.
As we embark on a new way of life in this crazy world, setting goals will help us create the world we want to live in. When we create the world we want to live in, we tend to be a lot happier and able to experience joy and fulfillment.
We’re being presented with so many opportunities right now. Let’s take this time to be SMART so the uncertain times become more manageable and you move powerfully forward along the path.