8 ways to get unstuck and start living a Fiercely Fresh Life

8 ways to get unstuck and start living a Fiercely Fresh Life

I remember sitting in my reading chair in my bedroom, wondering what the hell I was going to do. I was stuck like never before, and I really wanted to get unstuck.

I had passed the point where my triple negative breast cancer was most likely to return and my doctor had cut our check up visits to once per year {I had been going to see her every three months, then every six. She had become the family member we see every so often.}. She was more and more confident that the things I was doing were working to keep cancer away, and so was I.

So now what?

That meant it was time to deal with the underlying issues that caused my cancer in the first place. Among the physical factors, there were the spiritual, mental, and emotional aspects that needed some attention. The depression and anxiety I had gone through the previous ten years had taken their toll, and since I could breath a little easier I wanted to dive in and find out why I couldn’t shake the shit that kept coming up.

I began my exploration by reading, then reading some more, then reading things I hadn’t read before, then doing things I hadn’t done in a very long time, then doing things I hadn’t ever done before. I slowly but surely started taking action.

In addition to taking action to get unstuck, I began working on my mindset and unconscious programming.

I had learned so much about the unconscious mind and realizing just how much shit was stuck in there. As I continued to learn how to reprogram my brain I learned some really great ways to create the life I wanted.

These are eight ways I began to get unstuck and start living my Fiercely Fresh Life, and how you can begin to live yours too.

 

Let go of the outcome.

I began creating a picture of the life I wanted. I began setting goals. Then I surrendered it all over the the Universe to let it handle all the details of how I was going to get what I wanted.

 

Get rid of the should’s.

The word “should” kept coming up over and over. What “should” I do with my life? How “should” I be? What “should” I have? Well, I started to look at what I needed instead of all the “should’s”.

 

Use your emotions as a GPS to guide you to what you need to learn.

Our emotions are there for a reason. Despite what you may think it’s not to hijack us and turn us into raving lunatics, as much fun as that may be sometimes. I started personifying my emotions when they came up and having a conversation with them. Angry Annie and I had many conversations. I also learned how to deal with my emotions in the moment rather than allowing them to add to the baggage I was already carrying around. I’m developing an online course to help you do the same.

 

Ask for help.

Keep your sights on the results you’re looking for and the changes you want to make, instead of the excuses that keep you stuck. Asking for help can help you find resources you never knew where there. The more you ask for help, the more opportunities and resources start coming out of the wood works.

 

Get out of the weeds.

If you’re feeling anxiety it’s because you’re focused on all the things you need to do to get you to the future you want. When you look at all the things it can get overwhelming. Come back to the present and look at the big picture.

 

Connect to your Higher Self.

Connecting to the part of you that has all the answers, and trusting her more often, will help you make the decisions you need to move you in the direction you want to go, then take the actions you’re guided to take.

 

Embrace progress, not perfection and imperfectly perfect/perfectly imperfect.

Life is all about learning and growing. Work toward making progress and you’ll move forward more quickly. And stop beating yourself up for everything, right now!

 

Turn your frown upside down.

What’s the opposite of upside down? Rightside up! More specifically, when a negative thought comes up, stop it in it’s tracks and turn it around. We call this reframing in NLP. Take on a new perspective. Open your eyes and heart to the positive, the opposite of negative.

I’m not saying it’s going to be easy to implement all eight of these tips and get you unstuck. What I am saying is if you take one at a time, sooner or later you’re going to wake up with the life you keep saying you want. Making changes doesn’t have to be hard. You don’t need the “go big or go home” mentality. Making small changes in your programming by following these eight tips will lead you in the right direction.

 

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How to create your own unique path

How to create your own unique path

How would you like to create your own unique path?

Would you like to quit living according to the status quo, quit living Groundhog day over and over?

Then have I got some tips for you!!!

Anytime we are trying to create change in our lives it takes a few things. The first thing that comes to mind for me is courage.

I sat in my room one night, sobbing uncontrollably, not knowing how the hell to get off the floor. Suddenly, there was a shift. I took a deep breath, stood up, and like the Cowardly Lion screamed, “Put ‘em up! Put ‘em up!”.

I knew there was going to be a battle.

It was going to be hard.

I had no idea how to create my own unique path.

I also didn’t know just how fucking amazing it would be to finally be free of my demons and heal my wounds.

So I put one foot in front of the other and started walking, making the smallest of changes at first {actually, I slept on it for the night, that way my unconscious mind had a chance to process all the shit that was running through my head, then the next morning I got up and started walking.}.

See, I was a survivor. I had survived Triple Negative Breast Cancer {an aggressive beast and the most difficult to treat and keep from coming back}. It’s only co-incident that I’m writing this blog for you, all about creating your own unique path, on the eve of what would’ve been my 13th wedding anniversary. I say would’ve been because my husband unexpectedly passed away six weeks after I was diagnosed. Again, survivor.

According to Jeff Olson in The Slight Edge, “And if you can survive, then you can succeed. You don’t need to do some brilliant, impossible thing. You don’t need to learn some insanely difficult skills, or have some genius-level brainstorm of an innovative idea. All you have to do is keep doing the things that got you this far.”

But the things that had gotten me that far weren’t the things I knew I should be doing, so some things had to change.

If we want the change to be permanent, there are four things that are required.

These are four things you can do to create your own unique path!

 

Release the baggage you’ve been carrying around from your past.

Baggage is all the repressed negative emotions and limiting beliefs we carry with us through out our lives. An emotionally significant event occurs when we’re young, we don’t know how to process it, we develop some limiting belief about ourself {I’m not _____ enough, or some other bullshit} or the world, then our unconscious mind holds on to it until we’re ready to deal with it.

This is where the Mental and Emotional Release Technique® I use with my clients comes in. In a two day session we uncover the greater problem that was created by your thoughts about what was happening at the time. The really cool thing is that you don’t have to relive the actual event! Your unconscious mind has already saved it for you and knows exactly what to release.

 

Create a compelling vision for your life and set some goals according to what’s important to you.

There’s so many ways to do this. Visions boards, visualizations, meditations, journaling, on and on. How many of those actually align with what’s important to you though?

In a Breakthrough Session, we explore the things that are important to you-your values.

Our values are ingrained in us by the time we’re 5 {I’ve read as early as 2 as well.}. Once we release the baggage you’ve been carrying around, your values may shift a bit. That’s because some of the shit you’ve been carrying around may not even be yours. How would you know what’s important to you and WHY it’s important when someone else’s shit is in the way? Or your shit from long before you joined this time? How can you create your own unique path?!?!

Once you have your values in place you can start making decisions that are aligned with them, which will get you what you want and get you where you want to go a hell of a lot faster.

 

Stay focused on the picture you have in your mind for what you want your life to look like.

Once your baggage is out of the way and you’ve started using your values to get you where you want to go, it’s super important to stay focused.

One way to stay focused is to keep your values and vision you’ve created for yourself in plain sight every day and give them a little attention. Energy flows where attention goes! And do it with intention.

Another way to stay focused is to have some accountability with someone outside yourself. My suggestions would be to find a friend you know will keep you on the straight and narrow and be completely honest with you at all times, or invest in yourself and hire a coach who’s only job is to hold you accountable for the things you say you want and help you with the actions and tasks it will take to get you there. This is one of the things I do with my clients when they sign up for Integrative Coaching with me.

 

Take action, every day.

This one is completely up to you. Staying focused is up to you too, and I’m here to support you the best way I can. However, I can’t take action for you.

Are you 100% at cause for the things in your life, or are you a victim? {Here’s a little spoiler alert…you’re always at cause. It’s either out of creative responsibility or its out of “poor little me” victimhood. I was the poor little victim for so long!! I was exhausted.}

Remember, Jeff Olson said it doesn’t have to be some insanely difficult task. Compound interest doesn’t just work for money. It works for being more active, building a business from scratch, being who you want to be. Little actions done over and over, day in and day out, will eventually lead you to the greatest results. How do you think ants make their homes?

There you have it! Four ways to create lasting change. Four ways to create your own unique path. Now go take some baby steps to get you started.

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How imperfection brings the greatest joy

How imperfection brings the greatest joy

Do you know how exhausting it is to be a perfectionist? {I’m going to assume you do since you’re reading this.} It totally sucks, sucks the joy right out of life!

Hi! My name is Michele and I’m a recovering perfectionist. It’s nice to meet you.

I used to be such a perfectionist that I wouldn’t let anyone come over to my house unless I had dusted, vacuumed, cleaned the floors, kitchen and bathroom AND cleaned the baseboards. My obsessive perfectionism isolated me a few times too many.

The idea of perfection that society shoves down our throat keeps us in that “I’m not _____ enough” mentality. Well, I say, fuck that! I’m just as enough as anyone else, and so are you.

In her book “The Gifts of Imperfection”, Brene Brown states “It is in the process of embracing our imperfections that we find our truest gifts: courage, compassion, and connection.” This couldn’t be more true!

But how do you embrace imperfection? I’ve got 3 tips for you to help with this process.

 

Decide What Imperfection Means To You

Figuring out what exactly perfection and imperfection even mean for you is a good place to start. Redefining, or reframing, a particular word or behavior can be really powerful. It’s one of the things I teach in my 7-day Emotional Awareness Course {Stay tuned for this. It’s gonna be sooo good!}. When you know what something means to you, you’re more likely to focus on that than what everyone else is saying. You’re able to stand firmly in your belief with confidence.

 

Find The Positives In Your Imperfection

Finding the gift(s) that perfection and imperfection have for you can help you accept both and allow either in your life. For me, perfection brings the gift of thorough efficiency where I check and double check something before putting it out or completing a task. It helps me correct any errors or mistakes I might be making. Imperfection brings me the gift of laughter, as in allowing myself to laugh at myself for making mistakes, rather than beating myself up over them.

 

Get To The Root Cause

Finding the root cause of your perfectionist ways can help you eliminate this mindset so you can develop a more empowering way of thinking. Mental and Emotional Release ® has been one of the best ways to release my baggage without having to relive every gruesome detail of my past. MER works with your unconscious mind to release the repressed negative emotions and limiting beliefs that stem from an emotionally significant event that occurred when you were young. When you see the event from the perspective of who you are now, rather than the frightened or confused child you were back then, you’re able to see that things really weren’t as bad as you once thought, allowing your unconscious mind to release the baggage that has continued to accumulate over the years.

Since taking action with these tips I’ve found a lot more ease and joy in my life. The urgency of life has decreased, along with the depression and anxiety. Getting clear on what things mean to me and learning to work with my thoughts and perceptions has given me an unshakable foundation upon which to stand. Releasing my baggage from the past has freed me up to be who I want to be, not who I think everyone else thinks I should be.

Both being perfect and being imperfect are absolutely necessary for a joyful and Fiercely Fresh Life.

So, tell me, what does perfection and/or imperfection mean to you? What are the gifts that either perfection or imperfection have for you? Leave a comment and share with us your perspective. It just may help someone else figure out a more empowering interpretation for them to take on, helping them move forward.

 

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This is what happens when you tell the world to f*#% off.

This is what happens when you tell the world to f*#% off.

Have you ever wanted to tell the whole world to just fuck off?

Did you actually do it and follow through? For once in my life I did just that.

Last week was a rough week for me. At the beginning of the week I backed over my chihuahua. My best friend. The being that has been with me through all the shit I’ve gone through over the last ten years. To say I was devastated would be a total fucking understatement. The connection I had with Brode was the deepest, strongest connection I’ve ever had with another living being, maybe even my kids.

After taking care of his lifeless little body and helping my kids through this traumatic event, I decided I wasn’t going to do things the way I usually do.

When things get challenging for me mentally and emotionally I get busy doing. Anything and everything. I distract myself. Something in me knew I had to change this way of being so I could step into the way of being I really wanted to be.

As a life coach I’ve got lots of tools to help me get through difficult situations. I coach people on how to deal with their emotions and use them to educate themselves on the lessons life has for us. It was time to practice what I preach.

I did a lot of breathing, a lot of sleeping, some yoga, and a lot of ho’oponopono {This is a Hawaiian forgiveness process. I had to forgive myself for the guilt I felt for killing my best friend}. I leaned into the pain, the sadness, the depression {because that fucker tried to come back}.

The thing I did that had the most impact for me was to tell the world-my commitments, my responsibilities and my “shoulds”- to fuck off!

I did it in a much kinder, gentler way of course {except in my head}, and setting this boundary was so important. So was giving myself permission to check out for as long as I needed. Doing these gave me the courage I needed to feel every ounce of shit I was feeling.

Then I dove head first into every self-care practice I knew. The one that worked the best? A Breakthrough Session!

A fellow coach led me through the process, where my dog showed up multiple times. The last time he showed up, I had the biggest breakthrough of my life. He gifted me, and I gifted myself, with unconditional self-love and acceptance.

Talk about freedom!

Who would’ve thought that telling the world to fuck off would be so liberating?

Now obviously I’m not telling you to run out and start telling everyone to fuck off when you don’t want to do something.

What I am telling you is to give yourself the time and energy you need to get you through whatever it is you’re going through. I’m telling you to break the patterns that keep you spinning in the same spot over and over, living the same drama on a different day. I’m telling you to quit taking care of everyone else and take care of yourself, whatever that looks like, and let others know what you need.

Sometimes when we take a few steps back we’re able to take a running start to get us where we want to go.

You want to know what a Breakthrough Session is, don’t you?

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How to center and ground your way to success…and you won’t find this by Googling

How to center and ground your way to success…and you won’t find this by Googling

What exactly does it mean to be centered and grounded?

These are two different concepts, and they lead us to the same thing-a calmer way of being. When we’re calmer we’re better able to handle situations out of our control and make better choices {read that as we don’t lose our shit as often}.

That, my friends, is the key to success, no matter what success looks like for you.

According to Diana Raab, PhD in her Psychology Today article she defines centeredness as “having a reference point or a place to come back to when life’s challenges and emotions push you off balance.” This is where having tools in your toolbox and goals to achieve come in. Setting powerful goals that you stay connected to are a lot more achievable than just thoughts of what you’d like to accomplish.

Dr. Raab says that “being grounded is the ability to be completely aware and conscious during the present moment.” Basically, to me, being grounded means I have the ability to be mindful in the moment rather than back in the past or out in the future. It’s when I am harmoniously handling the different areas of life as well as taking care of my spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical bodies.

There are many ways to center and ground yourself. You can Google “how to be more centered and grounded” and get a million and a half hits giving you great tips. These tips are all great, and they are all external to us. They are external tools to help us reconnect to that inner Self.

But what happens when these things have lost their effectiveness? Or maybe they only work so well.

One thing that I never thought about before in regards to staying centered and grounded so I can be successful was taking a look at my values and using them to make my decisions and guide me in life. Values are those things that are most important to us and they live in the unconscious mind.

When was the last time you really thought about what’s most important to you on a deep level?

When was the last time you actually sat down to take a look at your values? Do you even know what your values really are? {I sure didn’t. I had a general idea of what I thought they should be according to what others around me said, but I had never really considered what was important to ME.}

Here is a 6-step process to figure out what is most important to you so you know how to be successful.

STEP 1:

Grab a piece of paper and a pen, find a quiet distraction free place for you to connect to your unconscious mind. The very first answers you hear are coming from your unconscious mind, the place where all your memories and emotions are stored.

STEP 2:

Take a deep breath in through your nose, hold for a second or two, then blow out through your mouth making a ‘Ha’ sound. This helps you connect to your unconscious mind energetically.

STEP 3:

Ask your unconscious mind what is most important to you in life. You can either choose one of the six main areas of life-Family, Relationships, Career, Personal growth and development, Health and fitness, or Spirituality-or you can focus on life in general. Do this step at least three times. When you start getting repeat answers you know you’ve emptied your unconscious mind {kind of like emptying out a bucket}.

STEP 4:

Put this list in order of importance, as in ‘this value is most important to me and this value is second most important to me’. Then rewrite your list in numerical order. You’re putting this list into a hierarchy so you’ve got something to look at and connect to on a regular basis. Make sure that the bottom value supports the value above it, and that one supports the value above it, and so on leading up to the top value.

STEP 5:

After you’ve put your list in order of importance connect with each value by writing out what that value means to you and why it’s important to you. Simon Sinek talks about the importance of knowing WHY in his Ted Talk. Knowing what something means to you and why it means that strengthens it’s power, and you can use that power to propel you to success.

STEP 6:

Put this list somewhere you will look at it every day. Use this list to help steer you in the direction you want to be going. Use this list to help you be the person you want to be.

That’s my 6-Step process for staying centered and grounded so you can be successful.

When we are clear about our values we are better able to paint a target for where we want out lives to be. We give our unconscious minds a beautiful picture of where we want to go {Bet you didn’t know our unconscious minds are the goal getters while our conscious minds are the goal setters. That’s a blog post for another day.}

We’re better able to handle things that pop up and try to derail us from the path we’re meant to be on and away from the life we want to be living. Keep doing the exercises and using the tools that you Googled, AND keep your values in your awareness daily too.

Until next time!

With lots of fierce love,

Michele

Did you find something new to help you stay centered and grounded so you can become more successful? In the comments let us know what your values are and how you’re going to use them to get you where you want to be.

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